Top 10 Reasons Why I Became a Creighton Model FertilityCare Practitioner


When my CrMS Practitioner was temporarily out of commission due to health issues, the thought of going through the training myself became more and more appealing. With all the problems I was having with my chart, I needed help and I thought maybe I could meet someone through the Education Program who could figure out what was going on with me. But when I finally presented the idea to Gary, I figured I wouldn’t have the time or the money to go through with it. He responded with a very optimistic outlook (as he always does). “Babe, if you don’t do it now, you’ll never do it. You can help a lot of people.” And Gary backed me 150% of the way. From going with me to both EPs up in Three Rivers to watching the kids while I met with clients and worked on my assignments, he was an incredible support. I wouldn’t have been able to do it without him, especially because I was still teaching full-time at St. Jerome. My husband continues to be my greatest supporter to this day, and I’m SO glad he talked me into signing up for the program.

Gary and Therese at the St. Anthony Retreat Center, Three Rivers


Apparently I wasn’t the only woman having problems with my fertility cycle. I heard that there were others who couldn’t get pregnant, having recurrent miscarriages, or weren’t getting their periods regularly. Gary was right – I COULD help a lot of people this way. And by the grace of God, I have had the privilege of teaching women how to observe and chart so they could identify problems and truly monitor what was going on with their cycles. There have also been many opportunities to listen to their struggles, to the challenges they face in their marriages and families, to pray for them and offer support in their individual situations. I am constantly left awestruck at the different ways I am able to give back to God the gifts He has so generously blessed me with.


The women I was trained with I know as my “sister-practitioners”, and rightly so. Linda, Jennifer, Camille, and Marcy are an incredible group of women who played an integral role in my EP experiences, sharing their stories and encouraging me through their prayers. Our “momma-educators”, Margaret Howard and Dr. Lynn Keenan, prepared us with the knowledge and counsel we would need to fight for authentic reproductive health…for the dignity of women…for love and life. Margaret is known as the “itinerant Educator”, traveling all over the world to train Practitioners and Medical Consultants in the Creighton Model. Her story is amazing and definitely worth reading…

Profile of a Creighton Pioneer: Margaret Howard, CFCE

Education Director Margaret Howard, CFCE

My own practitioner and supervisor here in SoCal, Pat Poindexter, has also been a mother-figure to me, not only looking out for me during my internship but also for my family and personal well-being. Because of the common mission and purpose that binds us all together, every new intern is welcomed into the “family” with open arms and given support throughout their training program as well. If one of us needs something, there’s always another Practitioner willing to help because we know this work is too important to leave each other to go at it alone. Candice, Ann Marie, Peggy, Wendy, and Sarah – who all came into the program after I did – have become a wonderful presence in my life…even on Facebook!

Practitioner Refresher 2012 – Dr. Lynn Keenan, Ann Marie Paden, Wendy Arseneau, Peggy Stofila, Pat Poindexter, Dr. Candice Golez, Margaret Howard, Marianne Dyogi, Jenni Shaeffer


There is wisdom in God’s laws, and He imparts this wisdom upon His Church through the guidance of the Holy Spirit. It is the Magisterium – the teaching authority of the Catholic Church led by the Pope – that prayerfully discerns various situations that may arise with societal changes and technological advances. With such aggressive promotion of the Pill upon its distribution in the 1960s, a clear and immediate response came from the Church through Pope Paul VI’s encyclical Humanae Vitae. This document thoroughly explained God’s plan for the vocation of marriage and the gift of the marital act that allows husband and wife to participate in the transmission of human life. It described in detail the prophetic consequences that would wreak havoc on a society that would adopt artificial contraception as the norm for family planning – painting a very vivid picture of the world we live in today. The entire document is worth reading, for a greater understanding of why NFP has been advocated and birth control rejected. (full text)


Ever since I began teaching CrMS at St. Peter Chanel, the priests have been my biggest source of referrals. It is a requirement for the engaged couples who want to get married at the parish because they need to know that there are services readily available to them – a method of planning their families that is not only natural and safe, but morally acceptable and aligned with Church teaching as well. I have also had clients come to me as their penance after receiving the Sacrament of Reconciliation, and these have been most inspiring because they are committed to changing their ways out of obedience to God and His good and holy will for their lives. Fr. Ed always greets me with enthusiasm and says, “I’ve got to be your #1 promoter! I’m sending as many couples as I can to you!” Fr. Larry reminds me how important and valued this work is, and I am so thankful for everything they are doing to provide a place for CrMS services at SPC.


I would like to introduce you to Jack & Katrina Crow and Mark Anthony & Abby de Jesus. These are just two of the many incredible client couples I have worked with as a Creighton Model Practitioner who have not only strengthened my faith through the witness of their experiences, but have also become wonderful friends on this journey of life. Katrina has since joined the team and is currently one of our Practitioner Interns, and Jack also helps her do Introductory Sessions and informational talks about NFP awareness. Mark Anthony is the author of, a heartwarming blog that shares the lessons learned as a Creighton Model husband who has lovingly supported Abby through her diagnosis and medical treatment. For her upcoming birthday, Abby has requested a donation to the Pope Paul VI Institute (CrMS/NaPro headquarters) in lieu of gifts – a humble gesture that totally made my heart smile. My clients always inspire me through their dedication to Christ and His Church who I can and should be as wife and mother, leading me to a greater conviction and sense of purpose.

Jack & Katrina Crow and Abby & Mark Anthony de Jesus


When I was a brand new intern, Pat had shown me pictures in her binder of babies born to her clients who had difficulty conceiving. One by one, she told me their stories of hope and perseverance and spoke of the joy each mother felt when she finally gave birth to the child so desperately longed for. I wanted an album like that! Not that I could take full credit for the lives of these children, by any means – however, it would serve as a reminder of how good God is to those who are faithful. The experience of infertility is a painful one, as my clients have shared with me; and for a husband and wife to be blessed with a child after such waiting is a beautiful sight to see. So I present to you one of our Creighton babies, Ari Joseph Corral…

His beautiful mother, AJ, was one of my classmates in my LMU CAST program back in 2006. At the time, she told me that she and her husband were trying to have a baby for 6 years and nothing was happening. We reconnected in 2010 after I had begun my CrMS Practitioner Education Program, and I asked her if she might be interested in learning the Creighton Model. She said after 9 years she had accepted her infertility with peace but was open to meeting with me. I taught her, she charted and met with one of our Medical Consultants, used a fertile period while her husband was home for 2 weeks from Afghanistan, and in August 2011 little Ari was born!

AJ, Ari, and Armando Corral


The following excerpt is straight from the website (because I couldn’t have said it better myself):

This is the first women’s health science to network family planning with reproductive health monitoring and maintenance. It is a fertility-care based medical approach rather than a fertility-control approach to family planning and gynecological health.

NaProTECHNOLOGY uses the Creighton Model FertilityCare™ System biomarkers to monitor easily and objectively the occurrence of various hormonal events during the menstrual cycle. NaProtracking provides valid information that can be interpreted by a woman and by physicians who are specifically trained in this system.

Unlike common suppressive or destructive approaches, NaProTECHNOLOGY works cooperatively with the procreative and gynecologic systems. When these systems function abnormally, NaProTECHNOLOGY identifies the problems and cooperates with the menstrual and fertility cycles that correct the condition, maintain the human ecology, and sustain the procreative potential.

Women now have an opportunity to know and understand the causes of the symptoms from which they suffer.

THIS is preventative women’s health! If a woman wants to know whether she is healthy enough to conceive and maintain a pregnancy, she needs to chart. If she wants to understand why she has painful periods or cramping in the middle of her cycle, she can find answers with NaProTECHNOLOGY. If there are ANY menstrual irregularities, the birth control pill does NOT regulate anything. Women deserve answers and the kind of medical care that gets to the root of the problems, rather than the standard “band aid” protocol they often receive that does much more harm than good. Creighton Model and NaProTECHNOLOGY gives us the knowledge we need about our bodies and the leverage to advocate for quality reproductive health care.


I graduated from Cal State University, Long Beach in 2000 with a B.S. in Health Science: Community Health. After working for 3 years in the public health sector, I realized that I preferred to work directly with people as opposed to sitting behind a computer doing research. God answered my prayers and led me out of community health into elementary school teaching, and I have always enjoyed my career as a Catholic school teacher. A part of me felt guilty about not pursuing a Master’s degree in Public Health, like I had wanted to years ago, but I found my niche and was having a blast despite the fact that I never before imagined I’d choose to surround myself with a classroom of junior high kids all day, every day. When the prospect of becoming a FertilityCare Practitioner arose, it dawned on me that I could as last use my health education background and training. I still work full-time with the school, and I meet clients in the evenings and on weekends – so it definitely is a lot at the moment. But I’m always amazed by how God gives me the energy for the client appointments after a full day of teaching. For that, I am so grateful!


It is by no means a requirement to be Catholic to use the Creighton Model FertilityCare System. It can be taught in a completely secular setting without any mention of faith and Church teaching. This is important for people to know because ALL women – regardless of faith or religious affiliation – can benefit from learning how to identify biomarkers through charting their cycles.

That being said, most of our couples do come to us already seeking to follow God’s will for their lives and their marriages. Some have passed the childbearing years and simply want the information for their daughters and younger female relatives. It has been incredible to watch the different ways God speaks to those who come to us looking for alternatives to artificial birth control, sterilization, and IVF/IUI. Husbands and wives develop an increasingly stronger dynamic of communication, leading to prayerful discernment about many areas of their lives. Priorities shift and values become more important than temporary desires and ambitions. Catholics who want to educate themselves and others about natural family planning appreciate the tools they are given to explain how valuable Creighton Model is to a woman’s reproductive health. And engaged couples rise up to meet the challenges to remain chaste until marriage because they begin to understand the precious gift of the marital act reserved for their spouse alone.

Believe me, this work is not easy. It moves FAR BEYOND simply teaching the method. Much prayer (and fasting) goes into each one of my client cases. Many a follow-up session has involved counseling through the woman’s personal issues when we discuss how stress is affecting her cycles. But the Holy Spirit equips the called, and He has never failed me. I don’t ever feel that I have all the answers, so I have surrendered each woman…each couple…to the Lord. At the end of the evening I can only lift them up to Jesus in the Eucharist and present their needs to Him. And He is the One who works the miracles…


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Dilemma of the Ripped Chart

Diary of a Creighton Model Practitioner

Me: “So how has your chart been looking?”

Denise: “Well, something funny happened that wasn’t funny at the time.”

Me: “Really? What’s that?”

Denise: (holding up her chart) “Somebody ripped the chart, and it wasn’t me.”

I looked at her husband, Ben. He was smiling.

Ben: “At least I taped it back together!”

Denise and Ben wanted me to share this with you. They even wanted me to use to use their real names. Why? They thought there might be a lesson in this for one – or more – of you out there.

Let me tell you that I’ve never had one of my client husbands rip a chart in half until today. But it’s a good thing it happened because it was a form of communication that spoke to Denise and made her realize that something needed to change in their marriage.

This was the most fulfilling follow-up appointment I’ve ever had. And I absolutely love this couple because they are so real and so honest.

I’ve been meeting with Denise and Ben for over 6 months. They have been married for 16 years and have 4 beautiful children. Denise called me because she wanted to stop using the condom. She was looking for a natural way of avoiding pregnancy and knew deep down that barrier methods were interfering with the dynamic of their marriage. She often felt objectified, and sensed that something was missing – a dimension of intimacy that she and Ben could not reach while the condom was literally standing in the way of their truly connecting with each other.  Ben was completely resistant to the idea of having Denise chart her cycles. He didn’t think it would work. He was stubborn. But so was she.

Attending the Introductory Session alone, Denise was determined to prove to her husband that she could learn the Creighton Model. Within a couple of follow-up appointments, she was a pro. Ben eventually came around and realized that CrMS was awesome. He even shared the information he learned with his teenage sons, telling them that there’s a MUCH better way to plan their families when they get married.

So why the ripped chart?

After a while, Ben got frustrated. He understood that there were going to be some days in Denise’s cycle when they would abstain from intercourse since they were using CrMS to avoid pregnancy. The problems arose when he felt rejected by his wife on the days he would try to be intimate with her. Denise, on the other hand, wanted more SPICE to prepare for the time they would share together. Ben thought he was doing enough to show how much he loved her, and Denise felt short-changed.

What in the world is “SPICE”?

It’s a multidimensional, whole-person view of sexuality that challenges us to discover and appreciate the true meaning of sex in the context of total respect and love. SPICE is an acronym for Spiritual, Physical, Intellectual, Creative/Communicative, and Emotional. The Creighton Model User Manual includes an entire chapter devoted to SPICE in order to teach our clients the importance of valuing their spouses and developing new patterns of sexual interaction – especially when they are choosing to avoid intercourse during days of fertility. We also give our couples a SPICE Index for each of them to fill out and discuss so they can communicate to one another the areas of strength and improvement as they use CrMS together.

When a couple using the Creighton Model is able to integrate SPICE into their marriage, they can freely exercise the principle of “selective intercourse” without resentment, frustration, and anger. But this was incredibly difficult for Denise and Ben because they had been contracepting for so long. Having never used any form of natural family planning, they were not used to periodic abstinence. And they sure never had anyone work with them to evaluate these different areas of their marriage in order to improve their overall sexual relationship.

What business is this of mine as their Practitioner?

If I am going to teach a couple how to use the Creighton Model effectively, it is my responsibility to help them overcome any struggles they might be having. Denise did not have trouble learning how to observe and chart, despite the fact that she had continuous mucus. She was able to identify her days of fertility and infertility very clearly. Ben and Denise asked me specifically to give them direction with SPICE because it was a huge issue for them.

So we spent a couple of hours talking, listening, and asking questions. I let Denise vent her qualms about her husband; then I let Ben have his say about what he needed from his wife. It was very healing and empowering for both of them, since neither of them could discuss this topic without fighting at home. I broke down each area of SPICE and asked each of them to list 1-2 things that they would like the other to do for them. That would give them a total of 10 options to choose from. Ben was to keep Denise’s list and work on fulfilling at least one of her needs before the next follow-up appointment, and Denise was to do the same for Ben.

Here’s what they came up with.

SPICE lists

Obviously, much of Denise and Ben’s SPICE comes from their religion and family life. And that’s the beauty of it! It’s different for each couple, springing from their unique, personal, loving relationship. I had a lot of fun doing this with them. They both left optimistic and very relieved.

I went home incredibly excited for Denise and Ben because I knew this was only going to get better. I mean, like Ben said, at least he taped the chart back together. That was a pretty powerful statement.

To be continued… because I know you’re going to want to find out what happens to them…

(as originally posted on 1FLESH.ORG)

So What Do You Do Again?

Diary of a Creighton Model Practitioner

What is a Creighton Model FertilityCare Practitioner? People see me post about my work all the time, but they probably wonder what exactly it is that I do. They figure it has something to do with a woman’s menstrual cycle, that it may be connected to with helping couples dealing with infertility, but while these things are definitely part of it, this work entails so much more.

Women who are training to become Practitioners go through an intensive 13-month program in order to teach their clients how to make mucus observations, record their observations on a chart, and manage any issues that may come up during the learning process.

Introductory Sessions are presented to inquiring single women and engaged and married couples, giving them a brief overview of the Creighton Model FertilityCare System (CrMS). If they are interested in using the Creighton Model, they sign up for individual follow-up appointments with a Practitioner.

At the follow-up sessions, the Practitioner helps the couple identify days of fertility and days of infertility so they can use the Creighton Model according to their intentions to either achieve or avoid pregnancy. Most of the time is spent on teaching and assessing how well the client is using the system. Some women pick it up quickly, while others need a little bit more troubleshooting support. It’s important that the women never feel alone while they are learning CrMS, so the one-to-one teaching ratio is a great benefit. What’s great is that the husbands are encouraged to chart for their wives each night, so it’s helpful to double the brainpower when it comes to figuring out her cycle.

If certain biomarkers show up in the charts that indicate a risk for particular medical conditions – like Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, low progesterone, subfertility, and miscarriage – our clients need to be referred to a Creighton Model Medical Consultant for diagnostic testing and treatment. It’s crucial that their charts are as accurate as possible so that our doctors can effectively apply the practice of NaProTECHNOLOGY, a revolutionary reproductive science that works cooperatively with a woman’s fertility. In order for women to obtain the full range of care they need, we Practitioners have to make sure they’re making all their observations, charting them correctly, and following all the instructions they’ve been given.

I always make myself available via text, phone, or email if my clients ever have questions between follow-up appointments. Sometimes they feel bad because they know I’m busy with 3 kids of my own, but it usually only takes just a few minutes to respond. I really want them to get it. Their health depends on it.

My favorite part of being a CrMS practitioner is the conversations with my clients about their marriages and their families. They let me in to very private aspects of their lives because oftentimes their erratic cycles are a reflection of the stress that they’re going through. As a Practitioner, I’m pretty much an unofficial counselor – as you’ll see in my future posts. Little did I know before signing up for training how much resilience, compassion, and patience was required for this job. I’ve laughed and cried with my clients, coached them through communication issues, and done some pretty deep soul-searching with them as they open up about the different life challenges they’re facing.

When I started out, I could only imagine the incredible rewards I would get out of being a Practitioner. Now every time I walk into the office, I expect nothing short of AWESOME experiences. Meeting a baby born to a couple who were previously told they were infertile…watching the light bulb go off when a client has finally mastered the system…seeing the husbands jump in and support their wives…knowing that our women are getting answers through authentic health care from CrMS Medical Consultants working to restore their fertility. It’s not always easy, but I leave each appointment changed. My convictions only get stronger through all the confirmations that I’m part of something so valuable to women’s health. And hands down – my clients teach me how to be a better wife, mother, and Practitioner.

Now for my shameless plug: We’re on the lookout for more generous people who want to hop on the CrMS Practitioner bandwagon and join our Creighton family. Could this be your mission, too? Answer the call…women everywhere need you!

To learn more about the Creighton Model FertilityCare System and NaProTECHNOLOGY, check out our websites: 

(as originally posted on 1FLESH.ORG)

Introducing Diary of a Creighton Model Practitioner

Diary of a Creighton Practitioner

“During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act.”  – George Orwell

A movement is rising, a new sexual revolution: Women are discovering the intricacy and beauty of their bodies. Through being lured into the “quick-fix” mentality that dominates pharmaceuticals promoting contraception, through being led on by well-meaning doctors who never really knew there was anything better than contraception, women are standing up and taking stewardship of their bodies. It’s happening all over the world, especially wherever FertilityCare Centers are spreading the truth about authentic reproductive health.

This is why I am here.

I work as a Creighton Model FertilityCare Practitioner because I firmly believe that all women should receive the kind of medical care that doesn’t reject their fertility, to understand that their bodies don’t need to be flooded with chemicals that raise their risk for heart disease, breast cancer, and stroke.  If they are looking to avoid pregnancy, we have a responsibility to tell them that they can simply observe signs of fertility and practice a NATURAL and ORGANIC method that has absolutely NO SIDE EFFECTS.  And if they are having trouble conceiving, we have a responsibility to introduce women to a much LESS EXPENSIVE and MORE EFFECTIVE means to have the children they desire with all their heart.

Through the Creighton Model System (CrMS), I have met women from all walks of life who come with many different experiences.  Some are single, others engaged, and many are already married.  They want to take the mystery out of their cycles and understand the biological orchestra within their bodies.  Filled with excitement…sometimes with hesitation…and always with hope, they begin a journey with me to discover what no one ever told them before.

The benefits are PRICELESS.

I’m going to be taking you into the lives of my clients and the situations they have faced using the Creighton Model System.  Although their names will be changed and identifying details kept confidential, you will see how fulfilling this method has been for them and their relationships.  I will also give you a peek into our follow-up sessions and highlight some of the most dynamic interactions and “aha” moments we have had.

And who knows?  You might be called to join me and hundreds of other Creighton Model Practitioners in this work of revolutionizing women’s health care all over the world.

Because the bottom line is…WOMEN DESERVE IT.

(as originally posted on 1FLESH.ORG)

Top 10 Reasons Why I Use the Creighton Model FertilityCare System

The Creighton Model System (CrMS) relies upon standardized observation and charting of biological markers that are essential to a woman’s health and fertility. These “biomarkers” tell the couple when they are naturally fertile and infertile, allowing the couple to use the system either to achieve or to avoid pregnancy. These biomarkers also telegraph abnormalities in a woman’s health. The CrMS allows a woman to unravel the mysteries of the menstrual cycle. (from

I started using CrMS seven years ago as part of our marriage preparation process upon the recommendation of our priest, Fr. Ed Broom, OMV at St. Peter Chanel. My gynecologist had prescribed the birth control pill to me some 8 years before then to control endometriosis and to prevent the return of ovarian cysts after a surgery in 1997 to remove a cyst on my right ovary that grew to the size of a grapefruit (yikes!). I knew nothing about how the Pill worked. She said it was safe. I wasn’t using it for birth control purposes. I didn’t want to end up in the hospital again…so I took it.

See, you can’t stay on the Pill while you are learning a natural method and observing the signs of your body because the artificial hormones essentially SHUT DOWN the reproductive system for the entire time you are taking them. So I stopped because I had to. What of the endometriosis and the cysts? As far as I could feel, they didn’t come back but I also had a doctor who practiced some degree of NaProTechnology that cooperatively worked with CrMS to take care of any medical issues I had.

You’re waiting for my reasons, I know. So here they are…


This is our first child. He was also our first “Creighton baby” because we timed his conception, hoping to deliver him during the summer so I wouldn’t have to take off work during the school year. He left us at 6 weeks old in the womb, and we were incredibly heartbroken. I had been working with a pro-life ob/gyn who was referred to me by my CrMS practitioner, and he was wonderful in spiritually and emotionally supporting us through the miscarriage. Not once did he say, “Well, you’re young. You can always try again.” He took his own personal rosary out of his pocket and prayed with us, giving us the rosary after we finished. We could see that not only was our doctor committed to his faith, he was committed to his patients as well.


A few months after losing Little Gary, we chose to try for another child. Using CrMS we were able to identify the fertile window and were able to conceive successfully. But since I already had a past miscarriage, my doctor continued pregnancy maintenance with Prometrium, a prescription medication that is chemically bioidentical to the progesterone naturally found in a woman’s body. This is standard protocol in NaProTechnology, and I am so grateful for it because there are many women who lose pregnancies in the first trimester, possibly due to low progesterone levels. God blessed us with Meleana Grace who was born on October 14, 2007.


We planned on waiting until Meleana was 2 years old before having another baby, but Gary and I decided together that we would be open to the possibility. Creighton Model had worked well for us in postponing pregnancy months before, and this time it served its purpose for achieving our third pregnancy. Again I was placed on Prometrium for the first two trimesters, and I carried Therese to term with a smooth and quick delivery on March 13, 2009.


Our little boy, Kali Damien was born on Holy Thursday, April 21, 2011. We’re incredibly blessed to have him because after Therese I had 8 months of unusual postpartum bleeding. It was disheartening and terrifying at the same time. I didn’t know what was wrong with me and none of my doctors could figure out the problem, much less the solution. With the expertise of my Education Director and faculty Medical Consultant, I was put on Prometrium once again to jump start my cycles. What a relief it was to see a chart with some regularity! We wanted to continue growing our family, but my progesterone levels were still so low that I had two very early miscarriages. After a few months of consistent progesterone support, Kali was conceived and I continued to have my levels monitored throughout the pregnancy. Most ob/gyns advise against progesterone use after the 1st trimester, but our CrMS Medical Consultants want to make sure that the numbers stay up and will prescribe it through the 2nd trimester.


I was completely fascinated by the Creighton Model Intro Session when my practitioner showed me slides of the ovulation cycle, cervical mucus, and the biomarkers that were unique to NaProTechnology. I’d never learned about the intricacies and complex processes of a woman’s body this way – and I was a science major. Over 30 years of research has gone into developing this system and refining it for women all over the world to learn. Now, I understand that not everyone is as captivated by this stuff but I’ve always been the kind of person to look for answers and explanations for EVERYTHING. I thought this was absolutely awesome.


This new understanding of fertility was mind-blowing, and it has allowed me to appreciate the authenticity of CrMS’s approach to women’s reproductive health. I wasn’t at the mercy of a doctor who wanted to send me home with an IUD or use the birth control pill as a band-aid for any and all problems that I was having with my cycle. Since I began using CrMS, I have 7 years worth of charts that serve as a medical record and a visual aid when I am communicating with my doctors. When I needed to rule out uterine/endometrial cancer during all the bleeding I was having, I was able to show the doctor what was going on and we were able to determine whether or not the treatment he was giving me was working. He was willing to look for the possible causes much more quickly because of the information my chart provided.


Jason Evert wrote a beautiful article about why couples who use a natural method of family planning have such low divorces rates. The following points are made:

  • NFP depends on some of the same virtues as marriage itself: commitment, communication, consideration, and self-control
  • Since the spouses are not constantly sexually available to the other, it keeps them from taking the other for granted
  • In the words of one husband, “It’s wonderful because it almost creates the honeymoon over and over again.”
  • It allows you to love in many different ways
  • The exchange of the marital act is not as likely to be a means to bury problems but an opportunity to celebrate their love
  • They tend to have larger families [by choice], and divorce rates are highest where children are fewest
  • NFP couples also tend to take their faith, and therefore the sacrament of marriage, more seriously than the average contracepting couple
  • They are truly renewing their wedding promises each time they exchange the marital act

You can read the article in its entirety here:

Why Do NFP Using Couple Have Such Low Divorce Rates?


I grew up thinking that my menstrual cycle would function like clockwork. I was told to expect my period every 28 days or so. If I don’t get it, I’m probably pregnant. But there is a biological orchestra playing every day that I wasn’t even aware of until I started using CrMS. Little did I know how many changes my body actually goes through, with hormones constantly fluctuating between pregnancies…irregularities that I never expected…stress that I have to deal with – all affecting my fertility in so many different ways. I’ve been able to detect those changes and understand what is going on hormonally, based on what I observe on a day-to-day basis. Because my body is so unique – as is every woman’s – my CrMS Practitioner helped me navigate through my cycles with a program that is specifically tailor-made to my particular situation. It’s definitely not a “one-size-fits-all” kind of method. Creighton Model FertilityCare System is designed for a variety of reproductive categories, and coupled with NaProTechnology has served me well as a single woman, in my marriage to both achieve and avoid pregnancy, and also through the abnormalities that needed to be diagnosed and treated.


In a “green world”, I am so grateful that I have a system that is completely natural and free of artificial carcinogenic chemicals. It’s frightening to listen to the litany of possible side effects at the end of birth control commercials. I would rather choose periodic abstinence during fertile days than to flood my body with contraceptive pills that increase my risk of heart disease, breast cancer, and stroke. The rings, patches, implants, and shots are no different. None of them are good for a women’s health or for her fertility. Designed to interfere with the natural processes of fertility, these methods of artificial contraception prevent ovulation, attack the cervix, and deplete the uterine lining. Intrauterine devices (IUDs) disrupt the uterine environment and do not allow an embryo (a.k.a. BABY) to implant into the lining if conception should occur. The same happens in the case of a breakthrough ovulation with progestin-only or combination birth control pills that thin out the lining of the uterus. Birth control + Baby unable to implant = Early Abortion.

Additionally, since we are using CrMS, we are not planning on having surgeries that will damage our reproductive organs. Couples who choose sterilization may suffer from post-vasectomy complications and an increase incidence of kidney stones in men, and/or post-tubal ligation complications and an increase in pelvic infections in women. I could go on and on with these topics, but for the purposes of this entry I will leave you with this website:

Birth Control Explained


Research has shown the Creighton Model FertilityCare System to be 99.5% effective to avoid pregnancy. It is 98% effective to achieve pregnancy within 6 cycles of use in couples of normal fertility. With couples facing infertility, there is a 20-40% rate of effectiveness just using CrMS alone to identify days of fertility. The numbers skyrocket up to 80% with both CrMS and medical treatment. There are thousands of couples all over the world that will attest to the benefits of using Creighton Model with NaProTechnology. It does take time and patience to learn, but we are so grateful that we stuck to it. I truly feel that the fertility awareness and knowledge I have has given me leverage when dealing with my doctors, strengthened my marriage, and kept me healthier overall. I can’t thank Dr. Hilgers enough for devoting his life to this work, and for the countless CrMS Practitioners and Medical Consultants who make themselves available to educate, empower, and serve women like me.

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Take My Hand and Walk: The journey of a CrMS Practitioner begins

I can’t go to sleep tonight without touching on the immense wealth of knowledge, wisdom, and love that was poured into my mind and heart this past week. I have to start by saying that on Tuesday, November 2nd, I got a negative biopsy result for endometrial cancer. The exhaustion of the last 6 months – physically, mentally, and emotionally – was so taxing and it drained much of my energy in so many ways. I left home on Friday, November 6th for Three Rivers, CA to attend the first phase of a 13-month training program to become a Creighton Model FertilityCare Practitioner. It was wonderful to know that my husband and children would be coming and I was excited about what I didn’t know would happen. However, there was still a heaviness I carried with me from not knowing what was wrong with my body…not understanding why God brought me to this place.

It was quite a journey for the four of us who walked together as “sister Practitioners” (as Linda had called us). We came from different places with different experiences…different heartaches, but with a common sense of purpose. We were called by God to be there TOGETHER. And the two women who guided us down that path were phenomenal, to say the least. This week – all of it – was incredibly providential.

There are volumes to be said about what unfolded over the course of the week, but I have to start somewhere. During the morning Masses, I started to see a thread being woven through the readings…connecting them to the work God has called us to do in the field of fertility care. As the days went by, it became more and more clear that we were part of something HUGE…bigger than any of us could even imagine.

So I will begin with those readings and share with you the insights that came to me as I sat there in the chapel, as well as the realization of what this means – for me, for the the Church, and for the greater good of humanity. Bear with me, as I try to get it all down…taking it day by day…”down the road, up the mountain, and back down again.”


Gospel (Mark 12:38-44)

“…she from her poverty, has contributed all she had, her whole livelihood.”

The Lord is calling us to a generosity beyond what the world may understand. The widow shows us what it means to totally trust…to present to God every last bit, even when it feels as if we have nothing more to give. We never read a word that she uttered, but maybe we can assume that although this woman chose to sacrifice the little material wealth that she had, her heart was so full of love. I don’t imagine that she had a look of despair as she dropped the two small coins in the box. She must have known that she still had something going for her…that she could still offer her heart to God and to others because the love He had placed in her heart was limitless.

This Gospel spoke to me because I felt that I didn’t have a whole lot to give after being broken for so long. I didn’t have a lot of money, I didn’t have a lot of time or energy…and at that point, I didn’t even have my health. God said to me through His word, “What little you have, Marianne, give it to me.” I didn’t know what to expect for the coming week, but something told me that He was going to make it all worth it. Somehow, I would be repaid without even asking for it because He loved me far greater than I could ever know.

And so I took His hand and I walked…


Psalm 46:2-3

“God is our refuge and our strength, and ever-present help in distress. Therefore, we fear not, though the earth be shaken and mountains plunge into the depths of the sea.”

What an incredible comfort these verses were to me. The Lord had always carried me through the darkest, most confusing moments in my life, and He proved to me that He wasn’t about to abandon me now. I needed to be reminded how sovereign and powerful God was. He brought me to a place of healing…He introduced me to people who could help me…I needed to be there at the St. Anthony Retreat House at this particular time with these particular women. The weeks before the biopsy were quite heart-wrenching, and I found myself questioning God. Yes, it took some time for the answers to come, but He made them so clear to me. Today, He told me that I didn’t have to look anymore.


1st Reading (Wisdom 2:23-3:9)

“Indeed God created man to be immortal in the likeness of His own nature, but the envy of the devil brought death to the world, and those who take his side shall experience death.”

This is when I truly began to study the spiritual battle we had chosen to fight. God had a beautiful plan for humanity, and through the enemy’s hatred for us, we have been enticed to destroy ourselves and each other. Under the guise and pretense of convenience and women’s rights, artificial contraception and abortion have directly and indirectly caused chaos throughout our society. Death. Death to our own children…death to our marriages…death to the amazing opportunity to be co-creators with God. But if this was the end, what hope would any of us have for the salvation of the world? The story needed to continue…it had to.

So I kept reading…

“The souls of the just are in the hands of God and no torment shall touch them. In the eyes of the unwise they appear to be dead. Their going is held as a disaster; it seems as though they lose everything by departing from us, but they are in peace. Though seemingly they have been punished, immortality was the soul of their hope. After slight affliction will come great blessings, for God has tried them and found them worthy to be with Him; after testing them as gold in the furnace, He accepted them as a holocaust.

At the time of His coming they will shine like sparks that run in the stubble. They will govern nations and rule over peoples, and the Lord will be their King forever.

Those who trust in Him will penetrate the truth, those who are faithful will lie with Him in love, for His grace and mercy are for His chosen ones.”

The Holy Innocents…from the time of Moses to Jesus to the very culture that we live in…these children had their lives taken from them because someone decided that they had a right to do it. Pharaoh…King Herod…our governments all felt these children didn’t have a place in this world. Pharaoh wanted to save his kingdom from the threat of a slave uprising. King Herod wanted to protect his rule from a child who would become the King of the Jews. Our governments have placed in the hands of women the choice to take the lives of their own children.

It is a great tragedy. But praise God for the hope He gives to such souls – these babies who were never given the chance to fulfill God’s plan for their lives. This passage that follows the mention of Satan’s envy and the death he brings to our world shows how God still continues to reign supreme. The Good Father creates us to be immortal, and as the holy martyrs have said, “They may kill our bodies, but they cannot destroy our souls.”

So let us always remember these little saints, as they pray for us and intercede for the cause of defending LIFE. May we fight courageously for justice, for the end of abortion, and for every child who awaits the chance to do something great in this world.


1st Reading (Isaiah 61:1-3)

The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because Yahweh has anointed me to bring good news to the poor. He sent me to bind up broken hearts, to proclaim liberty to the captives, freedom to those languishing in prison; to announce the year of Yahweh’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God; to give comfort to those who grieve; and give them a garland instead of ashes, oil of gladness instead of mourning, and festal clothes instead of despair.”

We have an enormous responsibility to bring the truth to those who have never heard it. My husband once told me that we may never be able to change the laws in our country. Roe v. Wade may never be reversed, but if women do not want to abort their children, it will make a world of a difference to them and the children in their wombs. As I sat in our classes learning about the journey of Dr. Hilgers and the history of the Creighton Model System and NaProTechnology, I grew more and more aware that we were being called to be prophets in this age.

Pope Paul VI knew what God willed for His Church, and in his 1968 writing of Humanae Vitae he begged us to acknowledge the wonderful design of male and female, to remain faithful to the natural means of family planning, and to pursue research in this area. How profoundly prophetic this man was, as he foresaw what our society would become upon the acception and widespread use of artificial contraception. Selfishness, broken marriages, abortion, and government-regulated population control. We cannot say that God didn’t try to tell us.

Very few listened, but praise the Lord that they did. Without the receptivity and obedience of Dr. Thomas Hilgers and those who were willing to work with him, we wouldn’t be able to carry on this message of liberation to deliver to those who have bought into the advertising tactics of pharmaceutical companies. We are here to bring freedom to the women who want to be educated about their bodies because they no longer want to be imprisoned by the lies and the health risks they have been exposed to. And to the couples who are unable to conceive, we are being sent out as beacons of hope to proclaim the amazing possibilities available that no one ever told them about.

What joy comes from walking in the Light and being taught for the first time who God made us to be! It was an amazing personal discovery for me. Yes, I did go through a conversion experience at 21 years old…yes, I have fallen in love with Jesus and the Church as I learned more in the years following…but I had not known what perfect design He had planned for me to be a mother…not just in the circumstances and situations that allowed me to marry my husband, but in the very nature of our bodies.

If but every woman knew what a miracle she was…

if but every man grew to appreciate the gift of his wife’s fertility and the role he plays in creating a child…

if but every child was loved enough to be given a chance to live…

if our world could only come to realize how sacred our bodies are…

how beautiful life would be.


1st Reading (Wis 7:22b-8:1)

“In her is a spirit that is intelligent, saintly, unique, manifold, subtle, active, concise, pure and lucid… She enters holy souls, making them prophets and friends of God, for God loves only those who love wisdom… for light gives way to night, but evil cannot prevail against wisdom.”

We were learning so much. As each day passed, our minds and our hearts were filled with knowledge that empowered us and inspired us to DO SOMETHING for other women. I remember telling Margaret and Lynn, “I cannot go back out there into the world and not share this! To see so much pain…to know that they need to know the truth…we HAVE to tell people about what we’ve learned!”

And the instructions were simple: Let Wisdom be your guide. Straight from the Word of God. We could not work in the spirit of pride and self-righteousness. We had to speak the truth with love. It was truly like the Transfiguration in many ways…we went up the mountain (literally) and were shown God manifested in His creation – in our very own bodies. Then we were called like the early Christians who had witnessed the Resurrection…like Peter and the Apostles pouring out of the Upper Room on the day of Pentecost, saying, “It’s true!!! You need to hear this!” While those before us preached eternal life and salvation found in Jesus Christ, we are an extension of that message, sharing that very life in its fullness as God has made us in His own image and likeness. Prophets and friends of God…we were filled with the wisdom of His Spirit. The week was spent learning more than just statistics and information. We saw what it meant for this generation and the generations to come; not just here in the United States, but all over the world. This was a gift to humanity, inspired by God Himself.


1st Reading (Wis 13:1-9)

“For from the greatness and the beauty of created things
their original author, by analogy, is seen.
But yet, for these the blame is less;
For they indeed have gone astray perhaps,
though they seek God and wish to find him.
For they search busily among his works,
but are distracted by what they see, because the things seen are fair.
But again, not even these are pardonable.
For if they so far succeeded in knowledge
that they could speculate about the world,
how did they not more quickly find its Lord?”

They had a chance. Great men of science had the opportunity to make an enormous impact on reproductive health in such a positive way, but they didn’t listen. Forty years later, many still don’t hear the message or see the truth. They pursue medical and technological advances that will perhaps make life better for us, but they are led down a path of deception by a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Most have good intentions. They sincerely want to help humanity. But where is God in all of this? Has He not tried to show them the way in their seeking? in their learning? in the voices on the steps of the nation’s Capitol crying out for life?

May the Holy Spirit work to bring about the conversion of hearts and minds…to raise up a new generation of medical professionals who will follow in the steps of Dr. Hilgers and make straight the way of the Lord!